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The Dos and Don'ts for Negotiating Child Custody

Last updated 4 years ago

Ideally, parents would be able to settle child custody disputes and visitation rights amicably—with each person considering what is in the best interests of the child. Unfortunately, children often witness bitter battles between their parents, as each person fights to win custody. Child custody isn’t guaranteed for either parent, so it’s important for anyone going through a divorce to learn how to effectively negotiate a child custody agreement.

Do have a steady income
One key characteristic the court will look at is the financial stability of each parent. If you are trying to gain primary custody of your children, you need to show the court that you won’t have difficulty providing for your kids. If you are currently supporting yourself through welfare benefits, you should take steps toward becoming self-sufficient. It’s also important to have a permanent place to live before you file for custody, as this shows the court you can provide a stable home.

Do make children your focus
In order to show the court that you can provide a loving, stable home, you need to take an active role in your children’s lives. For instance, you should attend your children’s sporting events and school functions. If you aren’t the custodial parent, you should make sure that you don’t miss any scheduled visitations, as this can improve your chances of securing joint custody in the future.

Don’t hire a lawyer unfamiliar with family law
When searching for a divorce attorney, you need to find someone who is an expert in family law. The future of your family and children likely rests in this person’s professional ability, so you need to ensure you are working with someone who has experience handling similar cases and who you can trust with your family’s wellbeing.

Seeking attorney representation early in your case can dramatically impact how your child custody negotiations progress. Call (408) 266-9011 to schedule an appointment with Moreno Family Law of San Jose. Our firm has been practicing family law for more than 20 years. 


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