During your divorce, you’ll likely need the support of your loved ones more than ever. Unfortunately, telling your friends and family about the news of your marriage ending can create additional stress. Even though there are no set rules for telling a loved one that your marriage is over, there are some guidelines that can help you feel more comfortable breaking the news.
Consider involving your spouse
If you and your spouse are ending on good terms, it can be helpful to sit down together and discuss the breakup with each of your families. However, this should be avoided if the split is adversarial, as the discussion could trigger another fight or argument between you and your ex-spouse. Whether you are going to have this important conversation alone or as a team, make sure to practice what you are going to say first.
Speak to supportive people first
You may not be exactly sure how your family will react to the news, but you will likely know which friends and family members you can count on for support. It can be helpful to first talk to the person that you are closest to, as he or she will be the most equipped to get you through this difficult time. Though your closest friends might be shocked at first, they will usually be able to offer support and love once they get over the initial surprise.
Be direct in your answers
Your friends and family will likely have some questions about your divorce. If you don’t feel comfortable asking a particular question, be direct and tell your loved ones when you don’t want to answer a question. You can also politely ask your family and friends to refrain from making any negative comments about your spouse.
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