If you are considering a divorce, you have likely thought about how your children will be affected. Divorce is never an easy process for kids, but there are steps you can take to make it easier for them. Here are a few tips for talking to your children about divorce:
Be Prepared to Answer Questions
A divorce may cause your children to feel like their world is being turned upside down. They will undoubtedly have questions throughout the experience, so you should be prepared to answer these and many other questions:
- Where will I live?
- Who will I live with?
- Will I have to change schools?
- Will I get to keep my friends?
Avoid Insulting Your Ex
Some divorces are much smoother than others. Whatever the reasons for ending your marriage, you need to remember that your children will forever link you to the other person. You do not have to like your former spouse, but you do need to respect the fact that they likely want a good relationship with your children as well. Insulting your former spouse in front of your children will confuse and likely hurt them.
Listen Without Being Defensive
Children are known for being brutally honest—often without necessarily meaning to. While you have friends, co-workers, and other family members you may be able to speak with, your children will most likely come to you to talk through their issues about your divorce. They may say something that is hurtful or offensive to you without any intent to offend you. It is important to respond to them as honestly as possible without being defensive.
If you are contemplating divorce, then you will want to select a San Jose law firm that focuses its practice on divorce and family law issues. At the Moreno Law Firm in San Jose, we are here to help you through this difficult time. Call (408) 266-9011 to schedule a consultation and learn how we can help with your divorce and child custody issues.
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